Saturday, April 4, 2020

My first brush with Malayalam magazines....

The very first Malayalam magazine that reached Baroda home by post was the 'Manorama'.  I remember my mother waiting eagerly to rip open the seal lapel with the postal address on the folded black and white magazine, soon after serving and clearing kitchen post lunch, and indulge in the 1st leafing, before her afternoon siesta. This 1st leafing involved reading aloud for me the Boban and Molly cartoon strip on the last page. Many a afternoons I remember,  snuggled on my mother's lap listening to comments by Hippie,  President, Motta, and the rest. Of course, most of the sarcasm,  wit, politics, and all, was lost on me. Nevertheless,  I enjoyed listening to Ma read aloud and watch her laugh.

In fact, it was my inability to read Bobanum Mollyum on my own that prompted me to learn to at least read Malayalam.  Needless to say, my mother was most delighted at the prospects of tutoring me and encouraged me as I progressed with the Balapatham Book 1. Even today, the imagery that pops up in my mind, when I manage to read Malayalam is that of 'pa for pana', 'ta for tavala', 'gha for ghadhigaram', and the rest.

In the next few days, Ma would have several leafings, and devour every page in the magazine. She would read the several 'to be continued' story series, which sometimes overwhelmed her too much and made her read it aloud with me around. My teenaged sister completely disapproved Ma reading aloud such 'disgusting romances' to a kid!! Not that I understood much of what was going on, but I gave a patient listening to my mom's mumbling and was happy to see the involvement and speed with which she read.

Along with MM came another boring church newsletter called the Satyadeepam, with no cartoons or illustrations. I couldn't care less for what I called the 'newspaper' from church.  But this newsletter was seriously revered in my house. The series was kept neatly stacked beside the daily home prayer books, and sometimes under mattresses, along with the Holy fronds of the Hosanna palm leaves.

Then came another magazine named NaNa, which my father totally disapproved of, not just buying,  but even leafing through the few odd copies that would find its way into our house from the hands of visiting male cousins from Kerala,  who'd buy these for easy read before boarding the Jayanti Janata to Bombay - Baroda. This was also the time when small tapri or hand cart 'Kerala Store's started to make an appearance in Baroda,  perhaps taking a cue from more established Kerala stores in Bombay.  And while accompanying dad on his Vespa to these hand cart mini Kerala to buy the much coveted few Kerala goodies like Nentra pazham, koorka,  kolli / kappa, muthira, etc (this was over and above the truck load of cartons with Kerala goodies, including avalose podi, puttu podi, kozhalappam,  chakka,  pineapple, etc that was lugged on the Jayanti Janata over every school vacation to Trissur!) NaNa was also a 'gift' from Kerala

While dad checked out the 'items' in the mini Kerala stall, my eyes would wander to the colourful NaNa magazines festooned around the tiny hand cart with clothespins. I would curiously look at the eye-catching magazine cover with photos of voluptuous ladies and muscled men in goggles. My father would give me 'the look' if he caught me staring at these magazine covers. Likewise, the image that pops up in my mind for the Malayalam letter 'Na' is the bright red logo of NaNa magazine.

Then in 1980, while I was still a kid, my eldest sister in law, entered our home armed with a copy of a very "elegant, smart, and cultured" magazine called the Vanitha, another offspring from the 'respectable' MM family......... (to be continued.....)

Happy birthday Jane Goodall 💝

Happy Birthday Jane Goodall 💝

I was in the 8th std when I first read (or heard!) of Jane Goodall and her work with the Chimpanzees in Africa in a National Geographic magazine. It all sounded so exciting! It was around the time that I had woken up to 'environmental issues' and had freshly heard of the  'reduce, reuse, recycle’ mantra and the word 'sustainable' was added to my dictionary. Jane Goodall (Primatologist was another new word in my dictionary!) and her Foundation's work in the African jungles fascinated me and fired me up completely.

One fine morning, I drafted out a nice handwritten letter to 'Dear Ms Goodall' requesting her to take me on board as an assistant during my two month long school summer vacation break ☺️ I said I love animals and jungles 😅 I even drew a small A4 size poster on the RRR theme. Put everything in an envelope, neatly wrote out the c/o Foundation address, borrowed money for stamps from Ma and posted the letter. I awaited a reply for a few weeks. You see, Africa is huge, and a far away continent, things take time! I waited. I dreamt of a summer vacation in Africa with Ms Goodall and the  Chimpanzees. But nothing happened 😑

Then one day I got a reply. A fat envelope. With papers about the Foundation and their different programmes, including 'How to Volunteer', and of course, an envelope for donation! All very impersonal.  And what I had wanted, a personal reply from Ms Goodall, saying Hello Bina , thank you, lovely poster, come to Africa, etc was not there 😔

Very soon I made my peace wiith the impossibility of a summer vacation in the African jungles with chimpanzees. However, that initial motivational spark led me on......the followings years I got more involved with environment, animals, and plants, and realised how little I knew (or know even now!) of this bountiful earth, it's flora, and fauna. For several years in the 1980's I would read up any news snippet, article, on Ms Goodall and her Foundation. Even now whenever I read or hear about her and her work my heart cheers up. And that dream of a 13 year old smiles in me 😍

Saturday, February 15, 2020

Ma Ma Na Na and others....

My first brush with Malayalam magazines....

The very first Malayalam magazine that reached Baroda home by post was the 'Manorama'.  I remember my mother waiting eagerly to rip open the seal lapel with the postal address on the folded black and white magazine, soon after serving and clearing kitchen post lunch, and indulge in the 1st leafing, before her afternoon siesta. This 1st leafing involved reading aloud for me the Boban and Molly cartoon strip on the last page. Many a afternoons I remember,  snuggled on my mother's lap listening to comments by Hippie,  President, Motta, and the rest. Of course, most of the sarcasm,  wit, politics, and all, was lost on me. Nevertheless,  I enjoyed listening to Ma read aloud and watch her laugh.

In fact, it was my inability to read Bobanum Mollyum on my own that prompted me to learn to at least read Malayalam.  Needless to say, my mother was most delighted at the prospects of tutoring me and encouraged me as I progressed with the Balapatham Book 1. Even today, the imagery that pops up in my mind, when I manage to read Malayalam is that of 'pa for pana', 'ta for tavala', 'gha for ghadhigaram', and the rest.

In the next few days, Ma would have several leafings, and devour every page in the magazine. She would read the several 'to be continued' story series, which sometimes overwhelmed her too much and made her read it aloud with me around. My teenaged sister completely disapproved Ma reading aloud such 'disgusting romances' to a kid!! Not that I understood much of what was going on, but I gave a patient listening to my mom's mumbling and was happy to see the involvement and speed with which she read.

Along with MM came another boring church newsletter called the Satyadeepam, with no cartoons or illustrations. I couldn't care less for what I called the 'newspaper' from church.  But this newsletter was seriously revered in my house. The series was kept neatly stacked beside the daily home prayer books, and sometimes under mattresses, along with the Holy fronds of the Hosanna palm leaves.

Then came another magazine named NaNa, which my father totally disapproved of, not just buying,  but even leafing through the few odd copies that would find its way into our house from the hands of visiting male cousins from Kerala,  who'd buy these for easy read before boarding the Jayanti Janata to Bombay - Baroda. This was also the time when small tapri or hand cart 'Kerala Store's started to make an appearance in Baroda,  perhaps taking a cue from more established Kerala stores in Bombay.  And while accompanying dad on his Vespa to these hand cart mini Kerala to buy the much coveted few Kerala goodies like Nentra pazham, koorka,  kolli / kappa, muthira, etc (this was over and above the truck load of cartons with Kerala goodies, including avalose podi, puttu podi, kozhalappam,  chakka,  pineapple, etc that was lugged on the Jayanti Janata over every school vacation to Trissur!) NaNa was also a 'gift' from Kerala

While dad checked out the 'items' in the mini Kerala stall, my eyes would wander to the colourful NaNa magazines festooned around the tiny hand cart with clothespins. I would curiously look at the eye-catching magazine cover with photos of voluptuous ladies and muscled men in goggles. My father would give me 'the look' if he caught me staring at these magazine covers. Likewise, the image that pops up in my mind for the Malayalam letter 'Na' is the bright red logo of NaNa magazine.

Then in 1980, while I was still a kid, my eldest sister in law, entered our home armed with a copy of a very "elegant, smart, and cultured" magazine called the Vanitha, another offspring from the 'respectable' MM family......... (to be continued.....)

Tuesday, December 10, 2019

Ma's 85th

Today is Ma's 85th birthday.  Married at 21, she made Gujarat her new home state, but always looked forward to Diwali and summer vacations at her paternal home in Trissur District. And she was (and still is, if prodded) full of stories of her growing up years, of people, surroundings, and experiences of her 'Naadu' that seemed ancient and nostalgic.  Being the youngest of her children I was always around her, while she read, while she was crocheting, or gardening. In the process, all of those habits and hobbies percolated into me. Especially so after Pa left us 32 years ago, and she had all the time to devote to herself, in-between spending time with grandchildren at home. Now she is a great grandmother to a big bunch of little ones, has not picked up a crochet hook in years, barely reads, and just about manages to spend time with her plants. It's been years since she traveled to Trissur or anywhere out of Baroda. But she is truly blessed that she has her 2 sons and loving daughters in law living with her and attending to her every need. 

Saturday, May 11, 2019

On Mothers Day, 2019.

Marriage was never on my mind all through my growing up years (till I met someone worth it in my 20's! ). But I always wanted to be a mother. And I'm talking of times, long before Karan Johar had babies of his own. Even long before Sushmita Sen became the first celebrity single-woman to adopt a child legally. And even before Neena Gupta shook the nation by going public about her decision to keep her baby and go on to famously become the first  'unwed' mother ( I remember looking up the exact definition of the word 'illegitimate' in the dictionary) .....

I don't recollect having fanciful ideas of 'happily ever after' fairytale endings or dreamy fantasies of my wedding dress and day. Being the youngest of the siblings, the family had seen enough weddings and were in no hurry to get me 'married off'. Besides I was good in studies, and so they let me be engaged with my so called  'academic pursuits'. 

Even as a little girl I remember being amazed at the idea of carrying a baby within me, in my belly. I used to and still do love dolls and would cradle, feed, bath, and dress them. I learnt the basics of stitching by making dresses for my dolls. Even now, whenever I see an adorable doll, I spare a moment to admire it. In my car, even today, there are one or two small dolls, supposedly my daughters when she was small not too long ago. 

It was in my 8th std school vacation that I started on my periods. Back then 13 year olds were not well informed about the 'facts of life'. Especially in a  conservative family upbringing where fathers were unapproachable and mothers restrained. Since I was one of the last ones in class to start on my periods, I had some idea about it from my classmates and older neighbourhood friends, and was prepared. To me it was just another bodily function which starts at a certain age in girls. Like sprouting hair. No big deal. I'd manage on my own, I thought. I was cool about it. And quiet about it. Until Ma found out on the second day. She thought I was perhaps embarrassed and scared. I remember that day, time, and scene so well. Ma requested to let her into the bathroom to help me clean up. I reluctantly agreed. I was too conscious and confused to pay attention to all the things she was explaining, cautioning, comforting. But what pricked up my ears, were her words 'this prepares you to bear a child and be a mother'. It was a shocking revelation for me. As if something miraculous just happened to my body. And mind. Everything changed...... 

To be continued......